Sometimes people that you know will ask you questions that seem insensitive at best. One such question is, “Where have you been?” or its cousin, “Why don’t we see you out anymore?” Handling that question with tact is important.
Educate Them about What You’ve Been Doing
Many people who ask you why you don’t get out and about more may not realize what you’ve been doing. Take the time to educate them about what you’ve been doing and what caregiving entails. They may not have anyone in their life who has been a caregiver, so this can be extremely educational for them. If this is a family member, try to be calm while you educate them as if they had no idea what you’re doing.
Ask for Help
This question gives you the perfect opportunity to ask the questioner for help. This is especially true if this person is another family member who might be in a position to be able to help out. Be specific about the type of help that you need and let the person know that you’d be very glad for any assistance they can provide.
Look at Your Respite Plans
As you ponder this question, it’s a perfect time to look at your current plans for respite time. If you don’t have any formal plans for respite, it’s time to make them. You may not want to be out and about in the same way that the questioner meant, but you do need to have some time for yourself. Look for ways that you can take up hobbies you’ve neglected, take classes you might enjoy, and to reconnect with other people you love.
Make Some Plans to Do More for Yourself
Start out by making one set of plans for yourself. Just one set. From there, you can branch out and make more plans for the future. But if you start out with one set of plans, you can understand how much good it does you to have some time away.
As you gain more experience as a family caregiver, it gets easier to field questions like this. Use this question to evaluate how your own self-care plan is operating.
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